Give and Take

Give and Take

Written by Paul Boross

Paul Boross, keynote speaker and motivational speaker, dubbed the ‘King of Keynotes’ by Sir Richard Branson, is an inspirational business psychologist who packs a punchline. STAND-UP COMEDIAN • TV PSYCHOLOGIST • POP STAR • BUSINESS GURU


Be honest, has the wall-to-wall news about Covid 19 disrupted your internal equilibrium and made you worry more? Psychologically it is predictable, in times of stress, for people to go into fight or flight mode and mentally hunker down.

I must admit that, at the start of this Covid pandemic, my first instinct was to solely look after my family and friends. However, when I started to open my mind, I took some time to consider that we are all interconnected and our attitude at times of crisis is a powerful way to change the way we cope with even the most difficult situations.

Whilst I still have some clients that I continue to executive coach and train via Zoom,  there are obviously no conferences booking speakers, no companies inviting me in to their offices to train their teams and therefore, I have some spare capacity to offer pro bono help.

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So far, I have signed up and offered my services to three local Covid 19 support groups, a food bank and the NHS GoodSAM volunteer service. 

Whilst I could claim that this is all altruism on my part, I am very much doing this for my own mental health. Let me explain. I think that the best antidote I know for worry is work. As Gordon Hinckley famously put it, “The best cure for weariness is the challenge of helping someone who is even more tired. One of the great ironies of life is this: He or she who serves almost always benefits more than he or she who is served.”

It’s obvious when you think about it – if you want to feel occupied, utilised, useful, worthwhile, valuable, do something that is valuable for others. We need that social feedback to know that we belong, that we are safe, and that together we can handle anything that comes our way.

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I now also wish to offer my support to you – my friends and colleagues on this mailing list. If you are reading this mail and feel that you or a vulnerable person who you know might benefit from a conversation via Zoom/Skype/telephone, get in touch.

Hopefully, some of my professional coaching expertise which I would normally use with executives in business can give you some new skills, fresh perspective or just raise a smile and help to lighten the load. If I can help you get through this difficult time the pleasure and the reward will be mine.

Want to help yourself feel better? Help others.

Think about your personal skill sets. What special ability do you have that you could offer to someone in need? Do it for others and notice how much you gain for yourself.

If you can be of help to someone else, I guarantee that you will start to feel better now. 

Stay calm. Stay strong. Stay safe. 

P x

“The best way to not feel hopeless is to get up and do something. Don’t wait for good things to happen to you. If you go out and make some good things happen, you will fill the world with hope, you will fill yourself with hope.”

Barack Obama

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